Proverbs From A Mother’s Heart

 

Mom's Proverbs

This Mother’s Day I am more cognizant and appreciative of the gift of motherhood. I am overwhelmed that God would choose to trust me with a life that is dear to him. I take the responsibility with courage knowing that I am imperfect and being to grow. I’ve grown in faith because I’m not all knowing and can’t protect my child from all harm. I parent from the perspective that I am the gloves that God will choose to wear.  Every day I am compelled to be better.  In honor of Mother’s Day, I would like to dedicate this week’s blog to my daughter.

It may inspire you to take some time throughout the year to write some of your own.

 

Proverbs from a Mom’s Heart.

 

  1. When you don’t like what you see, love who you are.
  2. Perfect love is pure and reserves compliments and words that entice. It seeks to know and to be known.
  3. Bless yourself when others curse you so that you never forget who you are.
  4. Pursue truth; live in it and it will light you as you walk through dark days.
  5. Guard your heart well. Be careful and selective about who you let in. Smiles are deceitful and true friendships rare. Every friend that comes is not one sent.
  6. Take a deep breath and surrender to the instructions written upon your heart that was spoken from the mouth of God. There are dreams, goals, meetings, friendships to be had which are divinely planned. Watch for them and listen to your heart.
  7. You are beautiful and rich in spirit. Your countenance is fair and personality bright and energetic. These are just a glimpse of who you are. Wherever your feet tread you leave a trail of joy. It will nourish a fragile spirit and trigger a call to hope. Darkness will hate you because of your light. You will overcome what seeks to overtake you because many prayers and tears have been offered to keep you.
  8. Enjoy you minutes, hours, days, and years. Lace them with smiles and laughter, courage, and hope, and with great expectation.
  9. Always strive to be a student and a teacher. Value , honor and remember the lessons you’ve learned.
  10. The most important question is not what you will be, but “who will you be?”

 

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY

Yonette Belinda, Author

 

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Our Review Of The Gracie Series

Gracie Series Review

We’ve just read the last book in the Gracie Series, (that is the last one to date) by author Grace Lajoy Henderson.  We are excited to share our thoughts about the six books in the series. We are hoping that there would be more to come. So, you can already tell that we LOVED it! The Gracie Series consists of six books: Popcorn Behind the Bush, Cake in My Shoe, Water in His Face, Math on the Table, I Trimmed My Edges, and Puppy Ate My Shorts!  Each story was inspired by entertaining memories from the author’s own life. The author also created the illustrations for all her books.  My daughter Hannah is serious about reading and has some unique standards she bides by. There have been many times we’ve had to stop and pick out a new book because she was just not interested or did not connect with the story. I am not sure which is the first book in the series however, our first read was “Math on the Table”.  After reading the first book I was pleasantly surprised at how a simple story could grab our attention and focus. It was presented with humor and a youthful perspective which was refreshing.  As I looked at my daughter’s facial expressions I noticed that she was focused on the story and connected with main character. She especially enjoyed the questions that came after the stories and looked forward to hearing them.  The author Grace Lajoy Henderson brilliantly executed the discussion question to draw out the teaching points.  When you read with your child at home it will offer an opportunity to have important conversations in a light-hearted manner.

Overall it was an engaging experience and we are certain that it will keep the attention, and the focus of your child. The series is recommended for Kindergarten through 5 th grade. It is nearly impossible to pick a favorite. It is inspiring for kids to see how their experiences can become teaching or learning experiences. Each book is a five star on its own offering a unique, amusing, and insightful experience.  We do recommend them all for summer reading.

Have you and your child read any books in the series?  Let us know if you were able to pick a favorite or what was most inspiring to you. Enjoy!!

 

Yonette Belinda

 

 

The Big Chop

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Have you ever had the big chop?  I recently made the choice to have one after much hesitation.  After a season of immense stress, I had been hit hard with some physical manifestation of long term stress. The damage to my hair was one of the most obvious but less serious symptoms.  For some women the big chop is no big deal at all, but for some of us we struggle all the way to the last snip. As I sat in the chair and watch the transformation process my emotions were all over the place. I’ll be honest and say that I was concerned about what I would look like, and how my actions were going to be perceived. The reality was that I needed to get to a heathy state, and to do that I had to rid my head of everything that was unhealthy and began again.

A few hours after having my hair cut I went to pick up my daughter from school. I waited for her to announce that she noticed something was different. Surprisingly this did not happen immediately.  It took about 20 mins.  After picking her up we went to lunch with Grandma and grandpa. When I left her seated with them and went up to the register to change an order she hesitated to come to me. Upon my return to the table she said, “I didn’t know if you were my mom, so I didn’t come to you”. “You didn’t look like my mom”.  Well, I reassure her that I am still mommy but with a new look.

As I process the decision of the big chop, and the entire experience I looked for the wisdom to extract and to share.  I’ve gotten myself into the habit of using my life experiences to become a learning and teaching opportunity.

I realized that:

  1. It takes one decision and one choice to make a person appear unrecognizable.
  2. Shedding and separating ourselves from what is unhealthy presents the opportunity for growth.
  3. We make choices in the midst, and not based on fear to move towards transformation.
  4. What you are becoming outweighs what you look like right now.

If a decision causes you hesitation. I pray you have the courage to make a choice and step towards unimaginable growth, and presence.  Everyone will not understand your need to separate yourself from what is not life-giving and uplifting. It is just not possible to stop and explain your why behind every choice if you want to progress. Take courage for your journey.

Thank you for taking the time to stop by:)

 

Yonette Belinda

 

Becoming Resilient

 

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Becoming Resilient

Resilience is the inner strength and the ability to cope with stressful situations that life throws at us.  Building inner strength requires actions or thoughts that you practice, such as planning for what to do next and learning to accept change. Inner strength can help you endure challenges.  Now the most important question to ask would be how does one endure the process of becoming resilient? We can’t plan for every challenge.  There are all different kinds of valleys in life and knowing an individual’s experience in a valley is not possible. Even if you may have had a similar valley or experience you cannot feel their impact. It would also be difficult to say what you should be equipped to withstand.  So, the process of developing resilient looks different for all but there are some tools, or disciplines that we all can use.

 

I’d like to offer a few tools that have helped me along the way in my journey of becoming more resilient:

 

  1. Prayer/Faith- Prayer helps you to get still and quiet anxieties. Acknowledging someone much greater than ourselves and our circumstance is liberating. It helps us to remove ourselves from a position of helplessness, and hopelessness, and exalt One who is greater.
  2. Perseverance- Be determined to see a positive outcome or a better day. Even if you have moments of deep despair you can decide at any point to be courageous and embrace hope again.
  3. Love- more specifically self-love. Self-love is a challenge for some, but not for all. If self-love is not a struggle practice and perfect it especially in times of emotional challenge.  It affirms your value. Now, you may feel unloved and quite honestly, I’ve been there. It does not matter how many times you hear I love you, if you don’t love yourself, it is difficult to receive. Self-love will help you persevere as you never let go of seeing yourself as deserving of a new and better day.
  4. Get to know your strengths and weaknesses and purpose to strengthen your weak places.

 

You’re going to have moments of disappointment and dejection where you don’t utilize the tools, plan of defense, or disciplines to help you stay resilience.  This tends to happen when you’ve been confronted with the unexpected; it’s been a long opposing challenge or a series of traumatic events that you’ve not had the opportunity to rest and recover.  It is in those times you may want to surround yourself with individuals who are resilient, encouraging, and hopeful.   In moments I’ve experience defeat this has been a source of recharge.  It is my hope that you never let go of hope.

 

Thank you for taking time to read my Blog.  Have an amazing week!

 

Yontte Belinda

 

 

 

The Magnificent In-Between Space

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That Magnificent In-Between Space

How can you write the book you’ve been wanting to write? How can you go back to school when you ‘re working full time? How do you get it all done when you’re a single mom, and you’ve got limited resources of support? How can anyone create and grow a business while still working a 40 plus hour work week schedule?  A few months ago, I had someone tell me “you should write a book about how you get it all done.” I thought about the comment and honestly had the same question for myself. I really didn’t think I really was getting it all done. There was a level of frustration I felt because I knew where I wanted to be and wanted so desperately to get there.  How can I do this? A question I often ask myself.  It is so interesting when feel like you’re struggling that someone can have a completely different perspective of where you are. It’s very interesting in deed. I can give my philosophical perspectives on why it presents that way but quite honestly your perspective of where you are now is the only one that matters in this moment. It matters because it will either help you, or it can hinder you in navigating in what I call that magnificent in-between space. The in-between space of where you are right now, and that place you see, desire and are purposed to be.

Let me clarify the details of what I call the Magnificent in-between space:

 

  1. It is the vision for your life that you can articulate. It is not exactly an in-between space unless the place you are going to, and desire to be is clearly conceived. If you cannot define or articulate where it is you are going you may be misplaced.  Being lost or having that feeling of being misplaced is not entirely a bad thing. You may embark on the best adventure of your lifetime but there’s no guarantees that will happen. It is important to have the awareness that you are misplaced so you know that at a certain point you’d have to seek out redirection, or support to get you on course to where you decide that you need or want to be.

 

  1. The in-between space is a place of commitment to endure the process to realize the vision. It is not an in-between space if you ‘ve not considered what it will cost you before you step-out. It may likely be a try, or a stumble upon instead. We’ve all had a try at something or a stumble into something. Whatever it was you tried or stumble into, somewhere in your mind you had your reservations. You may have decided that it may not be a continued focus, and you’ll wait to see what happens.  It is important to note that a try should not be devalued as it is pregnant with the potential of igniting a commitment. However, it is a possibility which offers options and not a marriage to the attempt.

 

  1. The in-between space is a place you’ve chosen to be, and it was not a state forced upon you. It is not an in-between space when you are in a space where you feel obligated to fulfill an expectation of another.  I know this space very well and when I lived in it I had no idea what it was.  For many years I felt restless even after all my achievements. I remember, nights and days, struggling with thoughts and questions about what I was truly called to do. It may be surprising to some, but I didn’t think I had the privilege to want anything else but a good formal education because after all my parents did not have this opportunity. It would be dishonoring (I believed) to live beyond what I thought they expected of me. Living in a space where you are driven by obligation to an expectation of another is a surrendering of your own unique-value, and a surrendering of your divine God given purpose.

 

So, knowing this magnificent in—between space will help answer the questions I posed at the top of my post. How do we accomplish what we purpose to do despite the opposition? When we’ve lived in other spaces that we never want to return to and have been given the vision of where we belong there are no other options. It honestly overwhelms me to look at the enormity of the journey.  I don’t consider myself as being more capable than another in managing the experience we call life. Sometime the tears come, and I have a cry out session, pray through it, and then I move on to being brave. Forgoing the time line of when I believe I should leave that in-between space I grace through the magnificent in- between one moment at a time.

Thank you for taking the time to read!

Yonette Belinda

 

A Time To Be Silent

 

A Time To Be Silent

Have You Considered Silence in A Moment of Weakness? Have you ever stooped yourself before saying something in a moment that you know it would not be delicately placed in the ears of another, or it may come across as being offensive? Perhaps you were angry, hurt or filled with an emotion that seemed to have overwhelmed you in the moment, and your better judgment cautioned you to remain silent. Well, I’ve had those moments. The truth is those moments were in my interactions with others but less likely with myself. Somehow it seems that when it comes to self I am less forgiving and seem not to take the caution I exercise with others for myself. Lately, I have been thinking about that a lot because I’ve been greatly convicted about the words I speak to myself.

I caught myself even speaking some very unkind things like “You need to get it together” and “Why aren’t you getting it right”. Now I will admit that these are not the worst words I’ve uttered to myself and yes, I am now being very cautious with what I say in speech. Even those things that were uttered by another that seemed to inflict a pain so deep in our hearts may tempt us to speak as if we are undeserving of grace. I do believe that if we personally do not debunk these personal attacks it will devour our thoughts and settle into our hearts. It is possible that we could believe them and then repeat it to ourselves. We all need grace, and more grace for our journey.

Perhaps you may not know what grace looks like, or it has been difficult to receive. Grace offers favor, kindness, compassion and uncovers something redeemable in the worst of circumstances.  As beautiful as all that sounds it is yet difficult to receive at the times when one feels undeserving. In some circumstance grace can be rejected because it’s opposite has been a constant companion that is preferred because it is more familiar.

Here are 5 Reasons to Consider Silence in A Moment Of Weakness, and embrace your moment of grace:

 

1. You avoid an attack on character when the matter is all about a circumstance.

2. You avoid rash judgments that can create false ideas.

3. You facilitate the healing and restoration of the heart.

4. You stay on a fruitful path. You word is your integrity and will draw the path to where your feet go.

5. You increase the capacity to forgive and receive forgiveness to be able to live optimally.

 

So, it seems beneficial to be mindful and aware of what is spoken, particularly when one is feeling challenged, fatigued, discouraged or in a difficult passing circumstance. I offer for consideration that sometimes your silence will preserve you.  Will you consider silence in a moment of weakness?

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Have a wonderful week.

 

Yonette Belinda, Author

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Choosing A Lifestyle Of Freedom

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Have you ever thought about Entrepreneurship? Well I had not thought of it until I took on the task of writing a children’s book. I had gone the traditional route of getting a college education and graduated college five times. I mentioned this because I want to express that I was desperate to find my purpose. When I became a mom, I experience what pure love was. Inspired by the love I had for my daughter and my daughter’s love of books I wrote the children’s book “We are Joined at the Heart”. It was a pledge of unconditional love. Something happened to me in the process and post launch of the book. I sensed that there was much more that laid dormant in me that I have not yet accessed. I went onto writing two more books but keep digging to uncover the hidden gems within myself. My hunger for entrepreneurship was growing as I realized that it was possible to redesign my life and lifestyle. I could have the life I wanted if I personally committed to stepping out with confidence. How about you have the sense that is much more in you? Do you have the desire to step out to discover it?

Let me say that I loved what I did for work, but I didn’t like how it impacted my life. I was blessed to be able to work from home and be a constant support to my daughter however, I lost my sacred space. Home is where the heart is. It is the place we are fortunate to have and reside peacefully. When I worked outside of home there was always a sense of relief as I entered my home from work. After many years of working at home I struggle to retain my “oasis”. I wanted to retain the lifestyle of working remotely however I needed to have my oasis reinstated. For me, I believed that entrepreneurship would help me to do that, but I had no idea about how to build and grow a business. One afternoon I happened on an advertisement for an opportunity in digital entrepreneurship. When listening to the opportunity I felt a sense of peace. So, I took on the task to lean more, and after several weeks of hesitation I joined SFM Digital Expert Academy. Since then I am working ambitiously to redesign my oasis.
I have found a supportive community of likeminded entrepreneurs who are supportive, generous, and eager to teach what they have learned. They have echoed some of the values I have been brought up with. Values such as stewardship, leadership, and servanthood. The reality is that it is more difficult to accomplish our goals in isolation. We need the support of community and those who’s brilliant mint outshines our own.

There is always more to learn. There is a lot of hard work involved in starting and building a business. It has not all been effortless, but it has all been worth it. The it is the oasis re-design. The freedom in having step into this journey is fuel for the hard work ahead. I have an excitement that I did not have before stepping into business ownership. I am optimistic and grateful for every step of success leading to my long-term goal.
If you would like to learn more about the journey that I have stepped into you can click the link below. You will receive a series of training to learn if this is the right opportunity for you.

What ever your decision, choose a lifestyle of freedom.
Thank you for taking the time to read this blog. Please let me know what resonated with you? Like and share if it has helped in any way:). “Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow…” Albert Einstein

Yonette Belinda

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3 Reasons You Should Celebrate When You Don’t Feel Like It.

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I know what you may be thinking. Who doesn’t love a good celebration? Right? When you think of celebration you may get the picture of good times, laughter, and dancing. Well, I’m sure there may have been a time you just didn’t want to celebrate. Maybe that time you worked incredibly hard and made small gains?  Perhaps a time when you saw someone succeed in a place you where you’ve had aa long season of struggle. There may come another scenario in the future when you don’t want to celebrate. As an entrepreneur I’ve had many moments of struggle where progress was slow.   There is a temptation to judge success based on outcomes and overlook the progress and lessons in the journey.  The progress, and small wins along the way are scripting the story of an amazing ground-breaking victory that has never been told.

So here are 3 amazing reasons to celebrate regardless of where you stand in your journey in life:

1.     Celebration Invites Success or anticipated Victory. Have you ever heard that your facial affect will change your mood, or you’ll feel better when you smile? Your mood will set the temperature of the atmosphere around you much like a thermostat regulates a room. It will invite others in, or signal that it is just not the day to approach. Your ability to celebrate increases your capacity to receive, as you set the atmosphere to invite into your life what you exude.  Also, just like the cheers of a fan helps a team to feel driven to perform despite the opposition your celebration invites a further victory.

2.     Celebration compels you to a place of Elevation. Choosing to move pass a feeling country to celebration may place you in a position to see another perspective or gain the insight you need for a long-anticipated victory.  Furthermore, if you’re willing to celebrate you may welcome a connection that will draw you to that position of elevation.

3.     It solidifies the commitment we have to our success and to the success of others. Are you your biggest fan? A fan has an enduring commitment regardless of the history of performance. A fan will not release the hope of victory. When I think of a fan I picture a sports fan in the bleaches all decked out in his or her team’s colors. There is loud cheering, and tears at times depending on what’s going on in the game. Are you a fan of anyone else in life besides yourself?  Often success does not occur in isolation. Being willing to celebrate in every season with others reveals where we are in our commitment to them. Being willing to celebrate the progress and victory of others, solidifies our commitment to grow beyond our circle, and solidifies our commitment to ourselves as we fortify our sphere of support, and influence.

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“Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow…” Albert Einstein

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Yonette Belinda

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About Yesterday…

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About Yesterday…

Have you ever been haunted by the pain of yesterday? Last week was a bit difficult for me as my heart seemed to have embraced an experience that nearly destroyed me. I would like to describe myself as a strong, vibrant woman. One who refuses to succumb to negative thoughts and emotions. I also consider myself a leader and role model for girls and women. One who has been divinely charged and personally committed to persevere. However, I have those moments when I struggle to stay positive.  In those times when yesterday comes knocking; the tears follow and there is a temptation to entertain anger, shame, and regret I decide that I will feel it but for a moment. I will acknowledge the reality of the experience then embrace the reality of my present, and the hope of a vibrant future.  It does not matter how many times yesterday comes knocking. What matters most is what happens in the encounter and what is our resolve.

How many times have you been haunted by a painful yesterday? Hopefully it has not led you to believe that you have lost value or purpose. Sometimes yesterday is a voice that repeatably attempts to divert us from a powerful purpose that would not only liberate self, but many other individuals as well. The storms we have overcome can serve as we profit from it and become life changers. This can be done when we are ready to walk that journey. I understand that healing is a process. It looks different for all, but for all, perseverance and a resolve are necessary to have complete healing. Do you have a resolve or a commitment to yourself?  Valley experiences will happen in life. If we prepare for natural disasters, why not for personal or life crises? Now this is not to suggest having a pessimistic view of life and considering the worst of outcomes. It neither suggests that you would prepared for any level of storm that come. There are somethings that we cannot completely prepare for.

I would like to share 4 ways I prepare for a yesterday and a valley that may show up unexpectedly:

1.     I recite the truth I know.  Emotions can often separate you from thoughts and stir us to act rather than think and process. Often time our feeling are not completely truthful because they shift so easily. So, we cannot anchor into feelings.

2.     I recite what good has happened – find something one good thing in the present and one good thing in the past that has happened to you. This allows us to see goodness is ever present. It also shifts the focus and magnifies the positives. Your testimony of goodness will preserve you.

3.     Recite the kindness received from strangers. This amplifies feelings of gratitude and increase awareness of divine love that finds you in any place.

4.     Recite the kindness you’ve shown to others. This amplifies feelings of worth and value.

Are there other ways you’ve guarded your heart and strengthened yourself? Preserve and press through yesterday. We are all survivors of a storm who have graduated to the position of a Life changer.

Thank you for visiting my blog. Please let me know what has resonated with you? Like and share if it has helped in any way:).

“Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow…” Albert Einstein

Have a great week!

Yonette Belinda

A Beautiful Moment

 

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A Beautiful Moment 

This past week I was not feeling well and of course I didn’t have to say much to my daughter. She seems to be a very perceptive girl who at times surprises me with the wisdom that she speaks. I had a moment with her today that I had to share. It sparked an idea that I wanted to present.   It also brought some comfort that I want to extend to you. So, like most of you we usually sleep a bit longer on Saturdays. I usually get up and lay in the bed for a few moments until I hear my daughter call out “mommy”. It is a beautiful sound that I look forward to hearing, and I would jump up and make my way to her room to greet her. Well this Saturday was different, and it will be remembered until my last breath. I’m sure you have had those moments with your little, or not so little one. Today, I woke up and laid in my bed waiting to hear that sweet voice calling, but there was an unusual silence. I thought to myself my baby girl must be tired. I waited for a while longer and then decided that I would peek in on her and watch her sleep. When I got to the door to my surprise she was wide awake and lying on her bed looking up at me. I asked her why she didn’t call out like she usually does, and she said, “I thought you were tired and I wanted to let you sleep.” Her response melted my heart.

So often as parents we worry about our children. We worry about so many things too long to list. We hope that they will grow into being beautiful souls. Persons of integrity and empathetic towards others. The moment I had with my child was truly beautiful and encouraging.  Her response overwhelmed me. I embraced her and expressed the beauty of the moment. I also made sure she understood that she did not need to take care of mommy, and that mommy looks forward to her Saturday morning call. I was inspired to get a journal today to record the moment and all the beautiful moments that I would never want to forget.  I would like to share them with her when she is old enough to appreciate it. Perhaps this is something that you already do. However, if you are not doing so perhaps my story will inspire you. I know that there is so much vying for our attention daily however it may just take 5 to 10 minutes to write down a memory that would be priceless gift. May you see and capture all the beauty in the passing moments.

Have an awesome Day!!

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