Choosing A Lifestyle Of Freedom

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Have you ever thought about Entrepreneurship? Well I had not thought of it until I took on the task of writing a children’s book. I had gone the traditional route of getting a college education and graduated college five times. I mentioned this because I want to express that I was desperate to find my purpose. When I became a mom, I experience what pure love was. Inspired by the love I had for my daughter and my daughter’s love of books I wrote the children’s book “We are Joined at the Heart”. It was a pledge of unconditional love. Something happened to me in the process and post launch of the book. I sensed that there was much more that laid dormant in me that I have not yet accessed. I went onto writing two more books but keep digging to uncover the hidden gems within myself. My hunger for entrepreneurship was growing as I realized that it was possible to redesign my life and lifestyle. I could have the life I wanted if I personally committed to stepping out with confidence. How about you have the sense that is much more in you? Do you have the desire to step out to discover it?

Let me say that I loved what I did for work, but I didn’t like how it impacted my life. I was blessed to be able to work from home and be a constant support to my daughter however, I lost my sacred space. Home is where the heart is. It is the place we are fortunate to have and reside peacefully. When I worked outside of home there was always a sense of relief as I entered my home from work. After many years of working at home I struggle to retain my “oasis”. I wanted to retain the lifestyle of working remotely however I needed to have my oasis reinstated. For me, I believed that entrepreneurship would help me to do that, but I had no idea about how to build and grow a business. One afternoon I happened on an advertisement for an opportunity in digital entrepreneurship. When listening to the opportunity I felt a sense of peace. So, I took on the task to lean more, and after several weeks of hesitation I joined SFM Digital Expert Academy. Since then I am working ambitiously to redesign my oasis.
I have found a supportive community of likeminded entrepreneurs who are supportive, generous, and eager to teach what they have learned. They have echoed some of the values I have been brought up with. Values such as stewardship, leadership, and servanthood. The reality is that it is more difficult to accomplish our goals in isolation. We need the support of community and those who’s brilliant mint outshines our own.

There is always more to learn. There is a lot of hard work involved in starting and building a business. It has not all been effortless, but it has all been worth it. The it is the oasis re-design. The freedom in having step into this journey is fuel for the hard work ahead. I have an excitement that I did not have before stepping into business ownership. I am optimistic and grateful for every step of success leading to my long-term goal.
If you would like to learn more about the journey that I have stepped into you can click the link below. You will receive a series of training to learn if this is the right opportunity for you.

What ever your decision, choose a lifestyle of freedom.
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3 Reasons You Should Celebrate When You Don’t Feel Like It.

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I know what you may be thinking. Who doesn’t love a good celebration? Right? When you think of celebration you may get the picture of good times, laughter, and dancing. Well, I’m sure there may have been a time you just didn’t want to celebrate. Maybe that time you worked incredibly hard and made small gains?  Perhaps a time when you saw someone succeed in a place you where you’ve had aa long season of struggle. There may come another scenario in the future when you don’t want to celebrate. As an entrepreneur I’ve had many moments of struggle where progress was slow.   There is a temptation to judge success based on outcomes and overlook the progress and lessons in the journey.  The progress, and small wins along the way are scripting the story of an amazing ground-breaking victory that has never been told.

So here are 3 amazing reasons to celebrate regardless of where you stand in your journey in life:

1.     Celebration Invites Success or anticipated Victory. Have you ever heard that your facial affect will change your mood, or you’ll feel better when you smile? Your mood will set the temperature of the atmosphere around you much like a thermostat regulates a room. It will invite others in, or signal that it is just not the day to approach. Your ability to celebrate increases your capacity to receive, as you set the atmosphere to invite into your life what you exude.  Also, just like the cheers of a fan helps a team to feel driven to perform despite the opposition your celebration invites a further victory.

2.     Celebration compels you to a place of Elevation. Choosing to move pass a feeling country to celebration may place you in a position to see another perspective or gain the insight you need for a long-anticipated victory.  Furthermore, if you’re willing to celebrate you may welcome a connection that will draw you to that position of elevation.

3.     It solidifies the commitment we have to our success and to the success of others. Are you your biggest fan? A fan has an enduring commitment regardless of the history of performance. A fan will not release the hope of victory. When I think of a fan I picture a sports fan in the bleaches all decked out in his or her team’s colors. There is loud cheering, and tears at times depending on what’s going on in the game. Are you a fan of anyone else in life besides yourself?  Often success does not occur in isolation. Being willing to celebrate in every season with others reveals where we are in our commitment to them. Being willing to celebrate the progress and victory of others, solidifies our commitment to grow beyond our circle, and solidifies our commitment to ourselves as we fortify our sphere of support, and influence.

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“Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow…” Albert Einstein

Have a great week!

Yonette Belinda

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About Yesterday…

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About Yesterday…

Have you ever been haunted by the pain of yesterday? Last week was a bit difficult for me as my heart seemed to have embraced an experience that nearly destroyed me. I would like to describe myself as a strong, vibrant woman. One who refuses to succumb to negative thoughts and emotions. I also consider myself a leader and role model for girls and women. One who has been divinely charged and personally committed to persevere. However, I have those moments when I struggle to stay positive.  In those times when yesterday comes knocking; the tears follow and there is a temptation to entertain anger, shame, and regret I decide that I will feel it but for a moment. I will acknowledge the reality of the experience then embrace the reality of my present, and the hope of a vibrant future.  It does not matter how many times yesterday comes knocking. What matters most is what happens in the encounter and what is our resolve.

How many times have you been haunted by a painful yesterday? Hopefully it has not led you to believe that you have lost value or purpose. Sometimes yesterday is a voice that repeatably attempts to divert us from a powerful purpose that would not only liberate self, but many other individuals as well. The storms we have overcome can serve as we profit from it and become life changers. This can be done when we are ready to walk that journey. I understand that healing is a process. It looks different for all, but for all, perseverance and a resolve are necessary to have complete healing. Do you have a resolve or a commitment to yourself?  Valley experiences will happen in life. If we prepare for natural disasters, why not for personal or life crises? Now this is not to suggest having a pessimistic view of life and considering the worst of outcomes. It neither suggests that you would prepared for any level of storm that come. There are somethings that we cannot completely prepare for.

I would like to share 4 ways I prepare for a yesterday and a valley that may show up unexpectedly:

1.     I recite the truth I know.  Emotions can often separate you from thoughts and stir us to act rather than think and process. Often time our feeling are not completely truthful because they shift so easily. So, we cannot anchor into feelings.

2.     I recite what good has happened – find something one good thing in the present and one good thing in the past that has happened to you. This allows us to see goodness is ever present. It also shifts the focus and magnifies the positives. Your testimony of goodness will preserve you.

3.     Recite the kindness received from strangers. This amplifies feelings of gratitude and increase awareness of divine love that finds you in any place.

4.     Recite the kindness you’ve shown to others. This amplifies feelings of worth and value.

Are there other ways you’ve guarded your heart and strengthened yourself? Preserve and press through yesterday. We are all survivors of a storm who have graduated to the position of a Life changer.

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“Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow…” Albert Einstein

Have a great week!

Yonette Belinda

A Beautiful Moment

 

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A Beautiful Moment 

This past week I was not feeling well and of course I didn’t have to say much to my daughter. She seems to be a very perceptive girl who at times surprises me with the wisdom that she speaks. I had a moment with her today that I had to share. It sparked an idea that I wanted to present.   It also brought some comfort that I want to extend to you. So, like most of you we usually sleep a bit longer on Saturdays. I usually get up and lay in the bed for a few moments until I hear my daughter call out “mommy”. It is a beautiful sound that I look forward to hearing, and I would jump up and make my way to her room to greet her. Well this Saturday was different, and it will be remembered until my last breath. I’m sure you have had those moments with your little, or not so little one. Today, I woke up and laid in my bed waiting to hear that sweet voice calling, but there was an unusual silence. I thought to myself my baby girl must be tired. I waited for a while longer and then decided that I would peek in on her and watch her sleep. When I got to the door to my surprise she was wide awake and lying on her bed looking up at me. I asked her why she didn’t call out like she usually does, and she said, “I thought you were tired and I wanted to let you sleep.” Her response melted my heart.

So often as parents we worry about our children. We worry about so many things too long to list. We hope that they will grow into being beautiful souls. Persons of integrity and empathetic towards others. The moment I had with my child was truly beautiful and encouraging.  Her response overwhelmed me. I embraced her and expressed the beauty of the moment. I also made sure she understood that she did not need to take care of mommy, and that mommy looks forward to her Saturday morning call. I was inspired to get a journal today to record the moment and all the beautiful moments that I would never want to forget.  I would like to share them with her when she is old enough to appreciate it. Perhaps this is something that you already do. However, if you are not doing so perhaps my story will inspire you. I know that there is so much vying for our attention daily however it may just take 5 to 10 minutes to write down a memory that would be priceless gift. May you see and capture all the beauty in the passing moments.

Have an awesome Day!!

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I Believe in Things That I Cannot See

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I Believe in things that I cannot see

Do you have a vision for your life? I had to honestly ask myself this question and pose it to you. Knowing your purpose offers clear direction for living. To live without a vision is to wander aimlessly i the hopes of arriving at a necessary location without intention. To live aimlessly is exhausting and you waste energy on life performance. You become what, or who others say you are as you adapt to a life where you have no active participation. We can all conform depending on our beliefs, and our focused thoughts will lead us into decisions that will take us wherever we think we are headed.  Are you able to clearly state your vision for your life, and where you are headed? There is evidence to beliefs.  Committed and consistent behaviors will follow beliefs.  So, in honest self-examination we can clearly see if we truly have a vison for our lives that we are truly committed to.

I believe that vision is God given. One of my favorite songs is “I Still Believe” by Crystal Lewis. It is special to me because it offers encouragement to my heart when shifting feelings threaten what I believe.  For me, it is difficult to live without faith and believing in someone and something greater that I.  There is a realization that belief will birth or create that thing you’ve not yet realized, seen with your eyes or experienced in your life. Have you remained consistent and committed to your beliefs, or have your surrendered them when challenges present? You truly have to be committed from the heart ,and with your thoughts to be conscious of your choices. When it comes to the vision you have for your life are you:

1.  clear about who you are and what kind of life you want to live ?

2.  comitting to it inwriting ?

3.  taking the steps to accomplish it ?

There is no magic to it and it does not come effortlessly but it requires awakening. It takes work to get still and quiet enough to hear.  I would like to submit to you for thought that having vision starts with a question, and then an answer which helps you to get clear and become fully alert. We wake out of a passive state and have a conviction that defies logic. We not irrational but sober in your thoughts, and intentional in our actions. What do you really want? Who are you? Can you describe the type of live you want to live? If money was no issue what would you be doing? You’ll find the right question to get to the heart of really matters to you. As you grow into that vision prepare yourself for the shaking and challenges. It will take fortitude. It wil take being in a state of constant readiness to receive, and the commitment to labor for what you have already seen in your heart and mind, but have not yet received.

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Break The Cycles

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I recent learned about the work being done by Jamal & Natasha Miller the founders of MarriedandYoung.com, a site dedicated to helping men and women establish a solid foundation for an unbreakable marriage.  They have dedicated their lives to the grand effort to reduce the divorce rate in America.  They work has been featured in BET, JET Magazine, and they have worked with countless other relationship experts. They are young but have been bestowed with wisdom beyond their years to impact the lives of all ages. It is wonderful to see their commitment and passion to serve others.

Like most of you I have faced personal struggles. I am on a mission to live authentically and use every gift, skill, and talent to offer value to the world. I do so because it is my purpose, and I desire to see others succeed in all areas of life. I would also like to succeed, and help my daughter to live an amazing life. My daughter is my inspiration and she compels me on to better. Last year was a turning point as I moved from being a mom to author, and then entrepreneur.   I have recently joined the 4 day #BreakTheCycle Challenge presented by Jamal & Natasha Miller. The purpose of the challenge is to break every cycle that is attempting to disrupt God’s plan for my life. It is not for everyone but I’m sharing because it just may be a pivotal turning point for someone. The information presented may help someone you know. So please share: http://bit.ly/2GIqWyKTakethechallenge

Day 1 – Break the cycles of toxic relationships

Day 2 – Break the cycles of Identity Crisis

Day 3- Break the Cycles of Poverty, Money Management, and money Worship

Day 4- Break the Cycles of Generational Patterns

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Teaching Safe Emotional & Physical Boundaries

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Teaching Safe Emotional & Physical Boundaries

Stories of assault and abuse seem to dominate our media and community in past months. It is troubling to hear, and I think of ways to educate my daughter about safe boundaries. Now there is physical safety and emotional safety. We for the most part instinctively know what we need to do to ensure physical safety. However, there are unforeseen circumstances that may compromise safety and we are all limited in our human abilities. The other type of safety  to consider is emotional safety. There is a brilliantly written article by the Washington post that I would like to recommend. It is comprehensive and worth the time to read. The article is titled: How (and why) to create emotional safety for our kids. I have provided the link here: https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2016/03/23/how-and-why-to-create-emotional-safety-for-our-kids/?utm_term=.fb547d2ace40

As a woman, a mom, and a professional my heart breaks to see the damage abuse causes to young lives. So many have spoken, and honestly it is necessary, however painful and difficult to listen. I never want to get to the point where I’m desensitize as it becomes a common occurrence. I encourage you to take the time to educate your young shinning stars on emotional as well as physical safety. Also, as parents we need to see the palaces in our own lives that need to be healed. It took me well into adulthood to consider my own emotional safety and recognize unsecure boundaries.  This quote by Maya Angelou seems very fitting:

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My mission is to positively affect each life I can touch. To affirm that every person has significant value. I’ve fought some difficult battles to rid myself of labels, and I purpose to influence others to banish them as well. I use my gifts of authorship and poetry in a few ways one of those is my branch in authorship, Y.B. Designs. Y.B. Designs creates messages of positivity and self-love for adults ,and children to combat bullying and banish labels. It is a heart mission of love that I envision will grow, and develop in the years to come. I would like to present one of our designs that we are giving away this month, “No Secrets. Love is wide and Open”. You can enter the giveaway below. You can visit our page to view more selections for young shining stars, that support an on-going conversation of love and safe boundaries.

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Fabulous Fail :Part II

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Fabulous Fail :Part II

 

In my last blog post I talked about the Fabulous Fail. You can check it out here: https://digitalbloggers.com/self-improvement/fabalous-fail. It is my perspective about failure offering three gifts that come in ghastly wrapping paper. There were three gifts identified:

1. It gives you a mirror, so you can see who you are.
2. It shows you what you didn’t know about yourself had you not had that specific fail.
3. It will spring board you into an opportunity for deep character development. so, you live from a place of integrity.

I wanted to focus on each gift separately however, in my preparation for writing this blog I found it difficult to separate them.  So, I ‘m going to link them together this week because it just makes sense. I think this is mostly because I’ve  discovered when I had an experience with failure much of what I learned about who I am was often what I didn’t know about myself, and maybe somethings I knew but was not prepared to acknowledge.  When we have an experience with failure we are given a mirror, so we can see who we are. We’ll come face to face with the good, the bad and the unpleasant. This offers a huge opportunity to become our own personal expert. Knowing who you are is a liberating and a refining experience.

I often call those difficult moments in my life the “character building moments”. Those moments when I get to see the mental, emotional, and moral qualities that are distinctive to who I am. I become familiar with my strengths, my weakness, my consistencies, and inconsistencies.  This discovery allows me to get to the root of what really matters to me, and what does not matter. Now if you have ever had a job interview you may have been asked the question. “What are some of your strengths and weaknesses”? It is equally to be acquainted with both strengths and weakness to be a champion in one’s own life.  The competition has always been personal, to refine and perfect those intangible character jewels that make us distinctively individual from another.

When you place a mirror in a room, the lighting in the room will reflect a variation of the  image being reflected. There are details you pick up in one location that you did not in another. Similarly each specific experience with failure will offer different angles to look at self. Not in a judgmental way but if engaged, in active discovery using perspective, and understanding.  How we respond to the experience of failure will also show us the condition of our hearts and the depth of our commitment. The fact that one ca become broken having failed at an attempt gives insight into how much that person cares, and how committed they are to their pursuits. Now there are moments in my life I loathe the mirror. Whether it it’s because I don’t feel well or got into a situation that wasn’t going to offer me the opportunity to see anything beautiful in the moment.  It may take a minute to take the courage necessary to look straight on. Whatever the mirror shows is not meant to introduce you to any feelings of defeat but rather an opportunity to uncover your greatness within. This takes us into Part III. Please stay tuned:).

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Fabulous Fail

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This past weekend was my daughter’s first dance dress rehearsal at her dance academy. I arrived on time but suddenly struck with a sinking feeling when I noticed other kids who were dressed in full costume. Ok, I’ve messed up. I did not have her dressed in costume. Sure, I can run home and grab it, but would I make it back in time. Would my daughter be all right rehearsing in regular dance attire, or was this a failure that would be replayed for years to come?  Well, I did run home to get the costume, but my efforts were futile because I did not make it back in time.  I must tell you that it hurt terribly to disappoint my child. This is a different kind of hurt altogether. However, in the process of feeling the emotion I had a sobering thought, this is one small moment that will be a memory, and what I give to it will memorialize it for both my daughter, and for myself.  I asked my daughter to forgive me and she did, and went on to enjoy the rest of her day without looking back at the incident. After taking some time for deeper reflection, I realized that there is something fabulous about having failed. It never feels good, and often does not look good. However, failure comes bearing gifts in ghastly wrapping paper. There are three gifts that I’ve identified thus far in my journey:

 

1. It gives you a mirror, so you can see who you are.
2. It shows you what you didn’t know about yourself had you not had that specific fail.
3. It will spring board you into an opportunity for deep character development. so, you live from a place of integrity.

There is a lot I would like to share about each of these and would like to present them individually in small digestible sizes. So, I’m going to be blogging on each in the next three weeks. I’d like you to see clearly as I what’s so fabulous about failing. We can graciously and fearlessly embrace it knowing it’s not this unmentionable thing that happens.  Most of us may have felt the shame and hurt of failure, and want to avoid or hide it. We also fear its label and repeat performance. So, we fold, and withhold ourselves from courageous living.  I can’t help but recall my first blog for the year that talked about going past feeling.

You can access it here: https://digitalbloggers.com/self-improvement/going-past-feeling-to-being.  It’s human to loathe uncomfortable feelings. Taking hold of them takes discipline and intentional, purposeful action. The story I shared was light compared to someone’s else’s experience with failure. It is certainly not a case of mind over matter. Sometimes it requires love, family, faith, and some prayer to take courage again. One thing is certain, you are not a failure if you’ve failed at anything, and you were not issued a life sentence of mental torment. You were bestowed some unpleasantly wrapped gifts, and there is priceless value added to you, and the experience you’ve been through. What’s so fabulous about failing? Stay tuned.

Yonette Belinda

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Is it Too Late?

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I’ve asked myself this question before, “is it too late?”. Often it is because I am comparing my progress with the accomplishments of others. I’m sure you can relate. We can lose track of where we are, and how far we’ve come because we’re looking in the wrong direction. At the core of the question “Is it too late” is the questioning of our own unique greatness. We each have a unique journey to take and it is a marathon, and not a sprint. Therefore, the focus is on endurance, perseverance, and steps of active faith as we make our way through. It is not on how fast we can get to a destination or a mark. Looking at what someone else was able to accomplish may cause you to wonder if what you possess is truly worthy of being called great. If you’ve thought that for a moment, it is likely that you have not yet seen the full manifestation of your greatness. You wait for affirmation, applause, and acknowledgement to step out with confidence and do what you know you can, and desire to do. This uncertain wait becomes a place of stagnation that slowly drains you of the vibrant, and purposeful life you are called to live.
When you’re asking if it is too late you are contemplating pulling back from acting. The truth is that many feel stuck because somewhere along their journey they gave up on their dream, and divine purpose, and opted for a life of invisibility and conformity. When we pull back we are choosing not to be seen and to actively participate in our own lives. If you feel invisible it is time for self-examination, and the personal acknowledgement of the areas you neglected to nurture. It is also time to acknowledge the gift that you are. What you have in you cannot, and should not be compared to another besides you. There are many wonders in the world and it is impossible to rank them in order of greatness. If you believe in God, and divine purpose as I do, you must know that his expression of greatness is infinite, and it encompasses you. I believe that greatness cannot be pursued. However, it can be released as we push forth in daily pursuit of our own unique purpose. You don’t need to do another thing, or win any accolades to be called great. Take the time to know all that is in you, and to celebrate it. No one will see you if you don’t see yourself. Take action in your life at any age, stage or place you find yourself and enjoy the journey. When the question surfaces again “Is it too late?”, remember that you are called to be a champion in your own life.

Yonette Belinda

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