Moving Past Feeling To Being

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Feelings are fickle and unpredictable. Sometimes they just can’t be trusted.  So, you may need to push past what you feel in one moment and rely on what you know.  What you know may be intellectual or it could be instinctual. What you know has the power to subdue the feelings that range against your confidence in your knowing. Contradictory feelings will oppose what we know when we begin to doubt that we can trust what we know. One feeling that I’ve had to struggle with for many years is fear.  It has held me back from leaving situations I needed to escape, and from embracing opportunities that I should embrace. Overall, I feared being judged, and reduced to a box of labels. So, I allowed myself to deny what I knew about myself and allowed feeling to disrupt my confidence in knowing that I was capable of deciding and taking action on all that pertained to me. If you have ever been though a situation that wounded, or nearly destroyed you it is likely that you may tread lightly, and often chose dwell in the valley of decision. It may be likely that someone had a front seat to your experience and overtly have disqualified you as being capable of knowing. What is even more destructive is believing that someone else would be allowed to be an expert in your life.

The only person who knows more than you about you is one who is all divine.
I truly believe that what we know instinctively about ourselves is divine. You may not believe in God as I do. However, my conviction is that he writes upon each heart its’ divine purpose, vision and dreams. It is often difficult to express in mere words what is written on the heart. That’s why it is difficult for another to embrace your vision and dreams or see all that you are. To live a life of conviction and be true to what you know, it will often take courage to go pass feeling to being.  You will need to be who you truly are at the heart without hesitation, and beyond another’s expectation. Don’t hold back when what is written on your heart is established, and it waits to be birthed through you stepping out confidently. Embrace the courage to move past feelings to being who you are destined to be.

Yonette Belinda

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The Music In Our Lives

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I fell in love with music and singing when attending the Ave Maria Girls Primary school in Castries St. Lucia. Music was incorporated into our regular schedule and it offered an opportunity for us to let our personalities shine. It was my favorite time for sure. I remembered pestering my parents to attend Sunday masses just to have the opportunity to participate in the singing at church. As I got a bit older, and we attended a full gospel church that allowed solo requests I would often ask my pastor for the opportunity to sing. It was there I learned to perfect those songs I learned in school.

Looking back, it was not so much about how I sound but rather what happened to my spirit as I sang. There was something uplifting about it. It was an unnamed something wonderful that took place, and I wanted to experience it repeatedly. It’s no surprise that I joined girls’ chorale and concert choir in high school.  When I saw that there were auditions for The Sound of Music musical all shyness dissipated and I was in line for my part in the musical. I got the role of sister Bertha and it was amazing!

My 5-year-old daughter Hannah loves music and singing just as much as I did. I’m not sure if it is just innate in her personality, or if it was an inspired thing. You see, I’m always singing and making up songs about anything. Our best times together is when we get YouTube on the television in her play room and play some songs as we dance, and have our fill with laughter. I have concluded that the music in our lives is simply wonderful and has added life to our days. You may not love music as much as we do but it’s undeniable that there are some good benefits to adding music in your life. It would serve you well to do so on a regular basis.

Here are 5 benefits I have identified 

  1. It changes the atmosphere and improves mood
  2. Stimulates creativity
  3. Helps with learning and memory. (I’ve made up songs about how to spell words etc.)
  4. Improves Confidence.
  5. Foster the ability to express and to identify feelings

In whatever way you choose and whatever genre you choose, let there be room in your heart and life for music. Regardless of how you sound have the courage to sing and play on:)

Celebrating Every Girl

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A s a mom of a little girl I wanted to write a book that would help to grow self-esteem and self-love in girls. This was a labor of love, and message to every girl that she is a life worthy of a lifetime of celebration. She is more than the sum of her physical characteristics. What she possesses within her is significant and necessary. She is not to be denied, but rather revealed and seen. 

October is Bullying Awareness Month

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Stand Together

I had experienced bullying in my junior and senior high school years, and wanted to bring to your attention that October is National Bullying Prevention Month. The effects of bullying are damaging and far reaching causing hurt to individuals and families. Also, many lives are lost as a result. Talking about bullying is an important and necessary conversation.  You can find a step by step guide on how to talk to your child about bullying at https://www.stopbullying.gov

Also, I’d like to highlight the work of “The Kind Campaign” which is an organization that brings awareness and healing to the negative and lasting effects of girl against girl bulling. There are other organizations that campaign against bullying. The Kind Campaign caught my attention because I am a mom of a little girl. I hope to get more involved in supporting their efforts in the coming year and hope you would  join me. You can find out more about them and how you can get involved at https://www.kindcampaign.com.

 

What’s the Buzz? Discussion 5 from “The Busiest Buzz Buzz Bee”.

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Being who you are meant to be gifts the world by allowing others to see greatness that has never been until you existed. By avoiding labeling, and comparing yourself and others, you discover within yourself a unique kind of beautiful. We live in a world of differences each having its own significance which cannot be compared. Kids need to be encouraged to be themselves and to love who they are, and who they are becoming. Our main character in “The Busiest Buzz Buzz Bee”, vows to be himself even when he images being a bee. The love of self is the health of self. Kid Champions can model and teach self-love by offering a supportive presence, identifying, and pointing out strengths, and praising efforts and successes.

Suggested Home and in the classroom kid Activities:

·    Say or write 3 things you love about yourself.

·    Create a treasure chest by putting magazine pictures of things you like or makes you different in a cardboard box and decorating the box.

·    In a group setting kids can sit in a circle and say one thing they like about the person to their left or right. This will work best when they have had an opportunity to get to know each other. If that is not the case offering a compliant would be an appropriate substitution. 

 

 

 

What’s the Buzz? Discussion 4 from “The Busiest Buzz Buzz Bee”.

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Being adventurous requires curiosity to explore and discover the unacquainted. Adventure can present as being loud, spontaneous, and can be in the wide open. It can also whisper and be hidden. Whether you’re taking a journey with your eyes and ears as you read a book, or journey with your feet as you step out to discover, your world will never be the same. The Busiest Buzz Buzz Bee had some whispers and shouts through his journey which made his journey truly memorable. It could be frightening for kids to try something new, but there can be a lot of fun hidden in a try.

In an article published by the Huffington Post, parents are given some helpful advice to help kids get past the fear of trying something new.  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/donna-b-pincus-phd/kids-fear_b_1725248.html. Parents are encouraged to support their child in making baby steps.

Suggested Home and in the classroom Activities:

  • Ask your child to think of a new activity (dancing, singing, sports, etc.} they would like to try. 
  • Describe an experience of trying new foods.
  • Name a place they have never been but would like to visit.
  • Tell about a new book they have read or listened to.
  • Try something new

 

 

 

What’s the Buzz? Discussion 3 from “The Busiest Buzz Buzz Bee”.

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My daughter like most kids have a great sense of wonder and curiosity about the world. She absolutely loves crafting, dancing, and pretend play. She wakes up with excitement often talking about what she plans to do, and how she was going to somehow include me on yet another adventure. There are no dull moments, but just enough time to take a deep breath before brilliance overtakes her with a brand new idea. Our main character in “The Busiest Buzz Buzz Bee”.  Imagines being a bee and all the amazing things he could conceive doing.  His inspiration and brilliance unlocked a door where the impossible was possible. In an article by Parenting. com, it is said that ” a child with a good imagination is happier and more alert, better able to cope with life’s twists and turns, and more likely to grow into a well-adjusted, secure adult.” Yo u can access the article here:

http://www.parenting.com/article/10-easy-ways-to-fire-your-childs-imagination-21354373

The article offer some inventive ideas to help spark your child’s Imagination. I am definitely going to try them out. I have listed them below, and encourage you to check them out on the site as there are more details which explains each activity. I guarantee it is worth the time investment to read.

Suggested Home and in the classroom Activities:

  • Brush-less painting
  • Reinventing the solar system
  • Hidden stories
  • Junk-drawer game
  • Art tales
  • Fold-a-creature
  • Big box
  • Nature story
  • Wacky photos
  • Unpuppets

Have an awesome time trying these:)

 

 

 

 

What’s the Buzz? Discussion 2 from “The Busiest Buzz Buzz Bee.

Be Brilliant

The secret of genius is to carry the spirit of childhood into maturity.
Thomas Henry Huxley

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I will define brilliance as the unrestricted ability to use what inspires you in your own unique way.  Brilliance abandons perfection. The lines don’t need to be parallel and the colors don’t need to blend.   You express your own style and creativity.  Within boundaries that offer protection children need to be supported and encouraged to confidently make choices, leaving their own unique signature.  They don’t need to be concerned about doing things perfectly but rather doing them confidently. Therefore, a healthy sense of esteem is necessary to unleash brilliance. 

A parent resource, http://kidshealth.org has two great articles; Developing Your Child’s Self-Esteem and Raising Confident Kids. They are short reads and offer some useful suggestions to help develop self-esteem and confidence.

Suggested Classroom or Home Activities to grow esteem and confidence:

  • Crafting or painting to create something independently.
  • Offer choices and the opportunity to choose.  Offer praise for the choices made.
  • Praise and encourage efforts both big and small.
  • Encourage independence with tasks that match abilities, and tasks that challenge abilities.

 

 

 

 

 

What’s the Buzz? Discussion 1 from “The Busiest Buzz Buzz Bee”.

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Inspiration

Inspiration can come from anywhere. We have all been inspired by someone or something we’ve seen that moves us to action. One small action can send a ripple effect to change your world as you know it. In “The Busiest Buzz Buzz Bee” children’s book a toy plane inspired the main character. His inspiration fueled creativity and imagination. These will open the doors to endless possibilities. There are many articles online about ways you can find inspiration. Recently I found a site Inspire My Kids: http://www.inspiremykids.com. “InspireMyKids.com is a place where people can find inspiring, age-appropriate, real-life, authentic, stories, videos, books, quotes and projects to share with the children and teens in their lives to help them become the best version of themselves and make the world a better place”. Perhaps this site will inspire you in some way to pursue new opportunities you have not yet considered. Having a discussion with a child will also help you to find out what inspires them. I’ll just share with you a few ways I try to inspire my little one.

  1. When my daughter says I can’t, I say, “yes you can …You just need to learn how”.
  2. I encourage her to explore new children’s programing rather than the constant repeating episodes of her favorite ones. Trying something new can be inspiring. A conversation about trying something new can build confidence, and encourage that step to unbridled possibilities.
  3. I encourage her to declare her value by using positive self-talk. This started with one question. I asked, “Do you know what’s inside of you”. She smiled and giggled. I then said “greatness”.So, every day after that interaction I would ask the same question, and her answer is always the same. Yes, “greatness”.
  1. Play along and follow her script when playing pretend.
  2. Frame her art work and display it through our home.
  3. I tell my daughter that she inspires me. Despite their age Children need to know that their presence and actions produce greatness. It does not spontaneously occur when they are older. It also helps to be specific when talking about their greatness.

This certainly is not a complete list but it is meant to get you thinking about all the ways you inspire, and can inspire a child. Have fun seeking out new opportunities.

Suggested Classroom Activity

  • Reading or talking about kid accomplishments that have gotten media attention
  • Having them talk about their experience in trying something new
  • Talking about interests
  • Discussions about Kid causes.

The Busiest Buzz Buzz Bee

Writing the “Busiest Buzz Buzz Bee” was a fun experience. I wanted to write an engaging book that would match my daughter’s personality. The story captures movement and imagination to get early readers interested in reading. There are also some take-aways from the book that can be used for classroom discussions or bonding time with kid champions. In the next week I will be exploring them in more detail.

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